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Friday, October 06, 2006

Surviving the tides....

Today,I was going through a blog of my friend Tarun on his evaluation and rather very appropriate questions about relationships primarily between a couple.I wrote a page length comment in it pouring all my analysisand might be understandings.I know he might be abusing....poora page bhar dala.But still it was a wonderful thing to tickle mind.
Why a couple goes through a rough patch after a while in marriage???
Though i wrote lots of things as comment in his blog but felt it will be worthwhile to write something or rather same analysis in my space too.As time fades away people start taking each other for granted and every relationship goes through this rough patch once a while, be it with ur siblings,friends or parents.These relationships usually survive,because we know they are precious and hence we always work to strive and maintain them.We forgive easily, we talk ,clarify our things easily, we try to understand each other's point of view, give respect and accept them the way they are,[Though it is not always,but still] and above all we have the easiness to walk away whenever we want.So these relationships don't bear the blunt of time to that extent.But for a couple once the time passes and the low tide comes.They are not able to sustainand cross the time because they are not willing to apply the principle fundamentals of a relationship.Our expectations that the other person should understand us becomes so high that we forget to give each other space,respect,forgiveness and might be willingness to atleast try to understand their point of view.And it happens because we know our partner will never go away from us...he/she will and has to be there for us always.I understand it becomes more difficult with time since priorities too change but might be just the willingness to understand the other's point of view always help !!

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hey Rimps, you are absolutely correct. I am really intrigued to know why it happens!! but....it happens, be it any relationship. Probably bcoz we start believing that the other person will always understand us, as you said. Thats human nature. But we must be mature enough to realize the situation at the correct time and decide upon. One incorrect decision can make your life hell and vice versa.
Well we have got only one life and hence should make sure to be happy and make others happy!
Cheers!!

Tarun said...

hey amy.... delighted that my blog made you think ! :) way to go buddy!

Chhavi Bakshi said...

i went through ur blog as well as Tarun's but i am so dead busy these days that i wanted to but couldnt think anything on these lines.....we (Tarun and myself) usually have a talk on thsi topic as we see 99% couples behaving in the same manner as Tarun has penned down in his blog.....Why it happens? Probably everyone might have their own philosophy but i would really like to think on this and come back to u...could be with an answer or my analysis as to what i think....

Anonymous said...

'taking someone for granted'..hmm now there's a thought...apart from my family...i dont have anyone whom i can take for granted...and whenever i have...i have falled flat on my face.

So, true, the sooner one balances the logic of give-and-take in a relationship...the better it gets.

And sadly enough, it's easier for people to 'walk-out' of a situation then face it, this makes patch up even more difficult.

Nice article...

God Speed.
Chetan.